By Myke Catilogo
Everyone hates to feel like a fraud, who does? You instantly lose all sense of individuality in this very human feeling. You start to question what you’re doing, why you’re doing it, and who you are in general.
So I’m teaching you how to feel like you don’t belong in 5 easy steps! This isn’t just a guide, this is a lifestyle.
First step: always compare yourself to others. No matter what you do, convince yourself you’re already below everyone else—that you’re simply not good enough to belong. The exam that everyone seemed to ace while you were left pondering if you were studying the same materials? The project you poured your hours perfecting, only to find that it doesn’t compare to what others made in a fraction of the time. This is one of the fastest ways to make yourself feel miserable!
Second step: never accept compliments, they are never real. Golden rule in making yourself feel bad, always think the opposite of the compliments given to you. Poison to the mind, compliments do nothing but rot your idea of self. Your new haircut does not fit you, you didn’t do a good job at work, you don’t look cute today. This will make you annoyed and depressing to be with!
Third step: have zero self-respect. Always view yourself as useless, unwanted, and full of shit. Don’t value anything you have, this includes your time, effort, needs, and yourself as a person. If you ever feel proud of something, shut it down instantly. You are nothing but a walking disappointment disguised as a human being.
But the reality is, we may feel like we don’t belong not because we actually don’t, but because we choose to believe in the lies we build around ourselves. We compare ourselves to people who struggle in their own ways, we choose to reject kindness from people who also find it hard to accept it, and we belittle ourselves because we forget to recognize our own worth.
Belonging doesn’t start when the world finally accepts you. It begins when you stop discrediting yourself. You are allowed to accept compliments. You are allowed to be proud of what you’ve achieved. You are allowed to take up space and be seen.
So it’s time to stop being your own worst enemy and start becoming someone you’re proud of. Because the moment you choose to see your true value. That’s when you realize, after all, you’ve always belonged.
